Take care of yourself… build emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual strength… and work on healing.
Especially with younger children. Kids pick up on your energy QUICKLY… they take their queues from you. So even if mom & dad aren’t together anymore, if they feel safe and secure with you, they will be OK.
That’s not to say your little one(s) won’t feel sad and confused about what the heck is going on… but if they see you lost and depressed and not being able to function properly, their own healing cannot begin.
My son was just five when his dad suddenly walked out on us… my initial thought, “There’s no way I’m going to live through this… I want to die.” Then I hugged my baby boy, looked deep into his beautiful eyes and decided instead to FIGHT for the MOST AMAZING new life with my one and only child…
And it’s totally OK & normal to cry and drag through low days… we all go through that (even without traumatic life events like divorce!). Just be sure not to “live” there for a long time, and do your best to pull yourself out of that place and get back on your feet as soon as you can. I really believe this shows your children that it’s OK to have ups & downs… and gives them hope that with faith, strength, and our will to be happy, bumps are only TEMPORARY.
Take care of you… be good to yourself and do your best to KEEP LIVING. Your child(ren) will see this and they will *know* that everything will be ok in their world. And when they feel confident in YOU, they will feel confident in themselves, and will continue growing forward strong & happy.
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Carmen is a mom, life strategist, religion teacher, best selling author, advice columnist, foodie wannabe, and advocate for victims of narcissistic abuse. She is currently living la vida loca in Vegas with her not-so-little human… prepping him for med school while pseudo-adulting, Tahitian dancing, and exploring the delicious world of bubble tea *woo!*